6 Things I’ve Learned About Raising a Boy
1. Boys never stop moving.
…and that’s OK!
An extremely active baby in the womb may be the first telltale sign you’re having a little boy. After quickly getting his bearings straight, he’ll be plowing through baby gates and climbing up furniture.
It won’t be long before you become a nervous wreck chasing after a stumbling/running toddler. The world’s a dangerous place when you’re head is a coffee table level and your feet are your worst enemy.
Thankfully, even after his bumps and bruises, my son has made it to the ripe old age of 4 and his hard work has payed off. He recently put his motor skills to the test this summer and began riding without training wheels (and I’m STILL chasing after him, a nervous wreck). Proud. Mama.
2. Little Boys Have Bad Aim.
…and lots of poop talk.
I was warned. “You’ll need a shield!,” they said. And then it hits you, literally. Gah! The first few months are a blur of leaking through diapers and changing outfits.
Then, just when you think it’s safe to do the “pee pee in the potty” dance, you’ll be changing bed sheets and wiping wee off the toilet seat… and the back of the toilet… and the floor… and the wall.
3. Boys love of anything with wheels.
Matchbox cars in the bathtub, LEGOS stuck in the carpet and trains covering the floor… oh, a little boy must love here!
Sure, he loved stuffed animals and play dough, too, but his eyes really light up when he unwraps a shiny new truck. While nothing drives like a Gator, Power Wheels needs to step up their battery life!
It’s been a blessing (kind of) to live next to a developing area where Ryan can look out the window to see all kinds of trucks and machinery. Whether it’s riding bikes through the dirt or taking a close-up look at the CAT machines, there’s something he’s innately drawn to.
4. Forget about expensive clothes.
A newborn baby’s closet is a beautiful collection of pristine matching outfits and cute little clothes. This phase quickly passes as your efforts turn towards settling on finding pants that aren’t floods and don’t have holes in the knees.
I envisioned dressing him in polo shirts, sweater vests and khakis but am pleasantly surprised that he’s developed a personal style of his own. The button downs have made way to character T’s (superhero errrrthing) and the khakis have succumb their spot to comfy athletic pants.
Bottomline, kids should feel comfortable while they play. Wool sweater vests look cute, but they certainly don’t breathe well. Leave the dressy clothes for picture days and holiday get-togethers.
5. They will get hurt.
…and there’s nothing you can do about it.
You won’t be able to shield him from everything (nor should you shouldn’t WANT to shield him from everything). Growing up is full of growing pains and it’s hard to know when to step in and when to let him learn for himself.
Childhood is full of roughhousing, trips to the emergency room and bullies. Regardless of my efforts to keep him wrapped in a plastic bubble, after an incident with a LEGO table, we had to take a trip for his first stitches.
Ryan recently changed schools and it’s been a hard adjustment for both of us. He had to leave old friends behind and it’s been hard for him to find a place in new cliques. Sometimes a mother’s place is to listen, encourage, and love. He’s taking his first few independent steps into the world and I want him to always know I’m here when he gets back.
6. Boys are sensitive, too.
Give hugs, lots of them. Kisses, too. Sometimes, even boys have to let their guard down. There’s nothing wrong with being sensitive, talking about feelings or even having a good cry.
For us, bedtime is a super important part of the day where we slow down, snuggle up in bed and read a book. It’s important to give children attention before they need it; because in between being a tough guy and a superhero, he’s still my baby.
Little Boy Construction Books
You’ll never guess what he want’s to be when he grows up…